In his work titled Valuable Decorations for Your Marriage, Dr. Francis Ngulefac raises an important question: Are you and your spouse growing together, or are you simply housemates? Most couples make the grievous error of mutually living in one house but failing to nurture the deepest connection that could make a marriage thrive. Dr. Ngulefac challenges married couples to be out of the comfort of familiarity and to build colorful and purposeful marriage.
This will include intentional development of emotional intimacy, meaningful conversations, as well as support for individual and shared aspirations. Growth in a marriage means living together and growing as partners together. It takes a conscious effort to keep connected, to openly communicate, and to evolve with observable changes in one another. An enormous treasure is embedded in Dr. Ngulefac’s practical pointers on rekindling love, building trust, and putting in place a platform that upholds partners. The essence is in the recognition that coexisting as a unit and flourishing as one are two different concepts—being willing to choose each day to grow together.
Signs of Stagnation
Despair may have set in if you are now discussing bills and schedules rather than dreams, and this is what is called cohabiting, not fulfilling purposes of the marriage. It is during such times that one might feel an increased sense of disconnection, and then comes the comforting message in Philippians 1:6, which states that “He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion.” So, here God assures us of his good work being in process in our lives, and Dr. Ngulefac directly links it to marriage.
This growth within a marriage means two people journeying through life together—they confront trials and triumphs, learn to communicate, and work toward a deeper level of intimacy. In a marriage, dreaming together actively supports one another’s divergent growth and builds together a partnership that exudes God’s character and purpose. The good work of marriage will continue; both partners will continue to flourish in their individuality and together, always creating space for dreams and mutual fulfillment.
One Growth Activity
Cooking one’s favorite foods hand in hand is an example of a shared hobby. Based on the book’s 21-day plan, it makes a very small leap toward sparking joy, providing shared activities, and creating memories of teamwork. Work such as cooking together gives a sense of accomplishment and opens creative spaces for personal connection.
A couple started hiking, for example, and that simple activity brought adventure back in their lives and served to deepen their emotional bond. Joining activity that can be fun and exciting in fact will revive that one old love. Maybe you take him out of his regular schedule and go through an adventure together-the two of you.
Choose Growth Today
Growth is not something that happens by accident; it is a choice. Dr. Ngulefac’s book offers practical ways to pursue it, ensuring your marriage thrives. “We Are Better Together—Because We Become Richer, Safer, Warmer, And Stronger.”
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